April 2013
1 post
2-in-1 Special: A First and Last Date
Welcome back dearest readers. I’ve missed writing to you!
It was November of 2011 and I was on the first date I had been on in as long as I remember. While I sipped my warm Starbucks latte moved by the winds ruffling between the skyscraper buildings, I looked into the eyes of the man sitting next to me. And for the first time, in a very long time, a strange feeling crept up on me. Hope. ...
January 2013
1 post
flickofafinger asked: "She marveled at him admitting his admiration for her and wondered: "How am i going to break the news to him that i'm crazy?" i absolutely love that, and i think you're a wonderful writer.
November 2012
1 post
The Breakup Manual
My dearest readers,
Welcome back - I have truly missed writing to you.
“Congratulations, you are now dumped!” Unfortunately, Hallmark makes no such card. In fact, Hallmark does not make a single card for breakups (No, I haven’t actually fact checked this, but I’m quite certain).
Breakups. Just the word itself is filled with so much doom and gloom, so much...
August 2012
1 post
Why Do We Hate Us?
If you haven’t read Mona El Tahawy’s “Why Do They Hate Us?” article in FP, I suggest you do so immediately. While the article gained a lot of criticism and support alike, I admired one thing about Mona’s article: It drew attention to a societal problem of gender imbalance long ignored and underrated.
Today I write you on a personal level. While Mona’s...
July 2012
1 post
wafaahadidi asked: Is there any other way to reach you other than the blog ?
May 2012
3 posts
Women: Victims or Bitches?
My lovely readers, welcome back.
With every passing relationship of my own and of those around me, I always find myself wondering if I walked into my own downfall or if it was out of my control. Women are often made to look like helpless creatures in experiences, storytelling and the media, which begs the question: Do women really live in a male-dominated world or do we deserve what’s coming our...
Girlfriends Are Not For Sharing
My lovely readers, welcome back.
When I look back at my dating experiences, I often find myself questioning whether the things that have happened to me happen to everyone else or just me. It begs the question: Am I crazy living in a normal world or am I normal living in a world full of corrupted freaks? And to be honest, I’d rather be crazy because I could never bring myself to accept...
lifeofasaudi asked: I like reading your blog; you inspired me to start my own. Though, you probably have more exciting stories to tell while mine are mostly about me asking my parents for something and they refuse.
April 2012
1 post
Work First, Play Later? No, Thanks.
My dearest readers, welcome back. I feel like women have always got to be on guard wherever they go. Yes, maybe it’s a little dramatic, but we’ve got this fear inside of us that every man is after “one thing” and we’ve got to keep an eye out lest we be called “too naïve” when something bad happens. I’ve talked about sexual harassment before in a...
March 2012
4 posts
semisinglelady asked: How old are you? ;)
It's Not Me, It's You. No, Really - Part 4
I spent the next four days after the break up with Charles in a very bittersweet state of mind. I still couldn’t believe it was over in that way, but somehow I was calm. Later I came to recognize this stage as denial. But at the time, I was at peace. Scary peace.
It didn’t last for long. Less than a week after we broke up, one of Charles’s “friends” messaged me on...
It's Not Me, It's You. No, Really - Part 3
I woke up the next morning after my break up with Charles and an unsettling feeling fostered in my heart throughout the day. Something felt wrong. I wondered: “Who breaks up with someone after seven months that way? A hug and just ‘have a nice life?!’ This makes no sense.” The puzzle was missing a piece and neither my heart, nor my mind, would give up without finding it.
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It's Not Me, It's You. No, Really - Part 2
I still remember it like it was yesterday. I met up with Charles in the evening that night as agreed and I had spent the entire day with my heart lodged in the depth of my throat. The thing is with instinct is you just know something is coming your way. I like saying that instinct is a God-granted compass to human beings that guides us through our ways in the face of the unknown. And that night, I...
February 2012
1 post
It's Not Me, It's You. No, Really. - Part 1
My dearest readers, welcome back. I have missed you.
Once Charles and I had gotten over the awkward first stage of our relationship with a few minor glitches here and there, we couldn’t have been happier. With time, I had come to realize that he was everything I wanted in a man and more. He was funny, smart, extremely handsome, came from a great family, successful, social, loving,...
January 2012
3 posts
Divorce 2.0: Did Our Generation Kill Marriage?
My dearest, loveliest readers. Welcome back.
Today’s post is a topic that has been on my mind for as long as I can remember. Once I realized that love and marriage weren’t as pretty as Disney had painted it to be, I started seeing marital problems around me like sand in the Middle Eastern desert. The more exposed I became, the more complicated, the deeper and the weirder the problems...
The Fast and the Charmingly Furious - Part 2
My dearest readers, I hope the fairest of all days fall upon you.
I left off last post after the night I had met Sully in a way most people would consider unconventional and perhaps even inappropriate. Some would even shake their head disapprovingly from left to right as if I had committed a crime, saying: “What are you doing with your life?!” Well, lucky for me, I am not like most...
The Fast and the Charmingly Furious - Part 1
My lovely readers, welcome back. I pray that you are all in the best of health.
A quick announcement first: I would like you all to share with me your experiences or thoughts on love, marriage, dating – whatever it is that’s on your mind related to this topic. This is just for pure curiosity and where I can help with a listening ear or advice, I will. E-mail me at 3aibandthecity@gmail.com and I...
December 2011
5 posts
CHEATER! Okay, Calm Down Everyone
My lovely readers, as always, I welcome you back with open arms.
There is something to be said for those who have had their hearts broken not once, not twice, but multiple times. If they get back up and continue looking for love, they are warriors. They are fighters and they will stop at nothing until they get what they want. And then, there’s my friends and I. We have surpassed the level...
cantbuymyheart asked: Sounds like im reading about my life!! I love this blog! its nice knowing that im not the only one going through all this crap with guys.. obviously its not nice that its happening to us :/
What's A Gentleman?
My lovely readers, can’t believe you’re still coming back for more. Obviously this means I’m doing something right!
Let me go back in time to two years ago on the first night I met Charles. I had gone to an event with Pixie and the moment we walked through the door, this very old man wouldn’t take his eyes off of Pixie. When it comes to guys hitting on my friends or...
My Fairytale First Kiss
A fair evening to you all, my dearest readers.
I have mentioned before that I went through an experimentation phase a few years back. I didn’t make all smart choices, but I was lost, confused and most of all, curious. I never really dated anyone until I was over 21 years old, which also meant that I have never kissed anyone until that age. So I always imagined that my “first kiss” would be...
This Is Not a Fruits and Vegetables Market
My dearest readers, welcome back.
You should know that I am a reasonable person. I have also never considered myself a feminist as much as I have considered myself a contender of equality between people, whether it’s race, gender, religion or age. Having said that, today’s topic is about sexual harassment. Yes, I am aware that it occurs with men too. But I am not a man and have...
November 2011
9 posts
cakesovercocaine asked: I love your blog! and if you ever publish a book I'll be one of the first people to purchase it. I promise! Now my question is: All these situations that you've gone through and the guys you met (and not to mention the occasional partying) did they all occur back in the states?
Friends With No Benefits
A fair evening to you, my dearest readers.
I have only been in love once in my life. Sid was the first and only love of my life. I was 14 years old.
I am the type of girl that crushes very easily. In fact, I remember having my first crush when I was seven years old. I even remember writing him a love note. His name was John. Throughout the many years since John, I have always had a crush on...
007 Is Just Your Next Door Neighbor
My dearest readers, I welcome you with open arms.
I want to start off today’s post by sharing an excerpt from the opening of the Sex and the City novel by Candace Bushnell. As you know by now, this blog is very heavily inspired by the idea of the show, but I actually have never read the book and decided to do exactly that. Simultaneously, I have started watching the show all over again to...
nadia911 asked: I love your blog, growing up with a very conservative family it's great to see that it's not only me and your writing is great, please don't stop! I love you on twitter, but on tumble you're real and your stories stand out! Keep it up! My question is, where do you live?
sabaharaby asked: Hey, I'm amazed at finding your blog its one of the most entertaining things i've read in ages Helped me lift up my mood after feeling down. As a middle Easterner myself, I couldn't help but wonder what your family's stance on dating is? As they seem very laid back in that area. Now, I'm sure your a fellow khaleeji, and from a Saudi Standpoint, dating openly is as you put...
razsadeq asked: I love reading your blog! :D
An Eye For An Eye
Welcome back my lovely readers. As always, great to have you back.
Revenge. Just hearing it gives you chills up and down your spine. Such a powerful word with so many different ways to look at it. Some people think it’s weak to practice revenge on those who have hurt them. Others think it’s a natural right. And then there are those who think of fun acts of revenge just for pure...
My Knight(s) in Shining Armor - Part 2
My shameful readers, welcome back.
Picking up from part 1, remember that I left off at getting to the restaurant and meeting my date/dates?
Here I was, standing in the restaurant, technically on a date with eight men (Sammy and his seven friends). I was in so much shock that I completely froze. I have previously discussed how you think you’re so tough but the minute you’re in a...
My Knight(s) in Shining Armor - Part 1
My loveliest readers, I welcome you back with open arms.
I’ve had a discussion with Ellie lately about the different experiences we’ve had with boys and she seems to think this happens to all girls. I strongly disagree and I hope today’s story will illustrate why. I do believe that most girls go through their fair share of ridiculous behavior from men (and some men meet horrible...
October 2011
4 posts
I Love You, I Hate You, I Love You, I Hate You
My dearest, loveliest readers, my reason for writing and happiness, welcome back.
Writing this blog has been very interesting for me because it’s taking me back on a journey of my past experiences - the good and the bad. It’s helped me put things into perspective in terms of how far I’ve come on topics of dating, men and of course… love. Now, I’m not going to get into a...
shammaxo asked: I absolutely love your blog! The posts are so interesting to read & no matter what don't stop writing you have a talent & it would be a shame to hide it♥
Nice Girls Finish Last
My dearest readers, welcome back.
In today’s post, I will address one of the biggest problems I’ve faced in every relationship I’ve been in. I don’t know if this is something that happens to all girls, but from my experience, I’ve found it impossible to be with a guy without dealing with this. For lack of a better term, I’ll refer to this problem as...
Romance 101
My dearest readers: I see you’re back. Welcome, always, but I must warn you: My stories are not for the faint-hearted, nor the fairtytale-dreamer. They are strictly for those who are somewhat cynical, yet wise and can enjoy laughing at a good story. If you are not one such person, run now and never look back.You have been warned.
My last post was about the things I will never understand....
September 2011
3 posts
The Things I Will Never Understand
My loveliest readers - welcome back.
First let me start by saying something. It’s been brought to my attention that a lot of people are reading my blog and getting “upset” over the things that are happening to me. I want to remind everyone of something: I am fine. In fact, I am doing greatly. I am writing this blog not to upset anyone but to entertain everyone! So please, feel...
solid50 asked: I don't mean any offense at all, but you seem to be very smart, obviously from how you say people stare at you good looking :p and generally fun as a person, my question's this, why do you always end up with douche bags..? I feel like a crime in the morals of fate has been violated many times and its disturbing me :|
These Shoes Were Made For Runnin'
My dearest readers, I hope your evening is as splendid as that of an enchanting fairytale. And if so, I hope that my story does not ruin your mood. For you know, I only aim to amuse and entertain.
Tonight’s story is not one that I am particularly proud of, but is one of the funniest things I’ve ever gone through. And it’s so out of character for me that I almost can’t...
August 2011
3 posts
How to Lose a Girl in Ten Seconds
My dearest readers, greetings to you all.
I have been talking a lot about relationships with the people around me lately. People of all age groups and backgrounds in relationships, engagements, marriages, break-ups and divorces. I’ve been talking and listening to relationship talk so much for the past couple of weeks that my head actually hurts. I have not been in many relationships in my...
The Curious Case of the Non-Caller
My lovely readers - I’ve missed writing to you.
I spent quite a few days thinking about what I wanted to write my next post about. I was going to write a little bit about the way women think and why it becomes so hard for us to “find love” in this crazy generation of ours. But I decided that I’ll leave my endless ranting for another day and instead, I’ll give you...
Silence is the Best Policy
Growing up as an Arab girl meant one thing: My parents’ ultimate goal in life is to see me married. Even the more “modern” parents live and breathe every second of their lives in preparation of marrying their daughters off. Other factors, such as character development, education, career and achievements are equally important, but secondary to marriage. The ultimate win in life...
July 2011
6 posts
Till Date Do Us Part
Welcome back my beloved 3aibsters.
A few years ago, I was pretty new to the whole dating scene. Growing up, I was pretty sheltered for most of my teenager years and only really started dating in my early twenties. I was quite pleased with myself because I thought that all teenage relationships are temporary and since I was dating in my older years, I would be more mature about it and would be...
solid50 asked: oops..i meant to say or* fetching one for yourself ":p but i think i got what you mean, so yeah wish you all the best ^_^
I've Found the One! (The 100-Year-Old, That Is)
A fair evening to you all, dearest readers.
I’ve been getting some criticism lately that I’m coming off as too hostile towards men (even though I haven’t gotten started yet - honest!). Now, I need to make something clear - that’s not my intention. I’ve mentioned before that I know of some really great guys and equally know of some horrible women. I’m very...
solid50 asked: Loved ur blog, seriously. And ur right about a lot of things...well all of'em actually, my question iis...even though you've given up the thought of it but, how do you intend on finding a husband? By you're parent's traditional way of fetching one for yourself?
The Olden Golden Times
Oh my beloved 3aibsters, welcome back.
Wait… you’re back for more? I thought I already warned you about how 3aib it was to partake in reading this. But fine, since you’re here, let me give you a bit of a background.
Once upon a time, in a desert land not so far away, lived a group of beautiful maidens - the fairest the lands had ever seen. In their younger years, they dreamed...
It's 3aib* For You to Read This...
First off, let me begin by saying 3aib. 3aib on all of you for visiting this blog. 3aib on you for not realizing that it’s 3aib. You are doing something so 3aib right now, you don’t even know. Second, if you’re here, you’ve got a story of your own. But you can’t share it, because it’s 3aib. You are also here because you can’t live without that which is...
